Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Eleanor & Park

 Rowell, R. (2013). Eleanor & Park. New York: St. Martin's Griffin.
She is overweight and her looks stick our like a sore thumb. Becoming the new target at her new school, Eleanor endures harsh comments and is bullied by her peers. Park is half Korean and feels like an outsider. Eleanor's family is poor with no money, while Park's family is well off and comfortable financially. Their relationship began with minimal interactions, but soon led to a more in depth emotional journey. As each other's true first love, both Eleanor and Park navigate different lifestyles and become cautious as they become more involved with one another. Eleanor's stepdad is easily triggered with anger by Eleanor's actions and he throughs  a twist into end of the story that one would not expect.
This was my first audiobook that I had ever used. I was able to use my school district's Over Drive. I did not like the way this book ended. I found that I felt like I was left hanging. Although I liked the storyline, the way it came to a halt, just irritated me. I was expecting a different ending, more positive. I liked how different personalities were attracted to one another, but the thoughts and some quotes were depressing and harsh. Some of the situations were harsh as well. Such as a mother allowing her children to be around a man who is could be abusive and cause children to become fearful of behaviors or actions. 


November 9


Hoover, C. (2015). November 9. New York: Atria Paperback.
Meeting one another was not planned. Their relationship was not planned. Their love for one another was not planned, but their attraction to one another keeps them together. With Fallon moving across country, she and Ben keep a long distance relationship that is not typical. No phone calls or emails. Only meet once a year back in the same place they first met. Ben is working on writing a novel, but it was not until Fallon that his novel took off. His history is his connection to Fallon, but her finding out is the breaking point for her. Although he is the reason for her physical scars, can Fallon move on to love Ben when she finds out he caused her pain and suffering, lost of a career, and isolation when she finds his novel hidden?

Oh my goodness ... Once again, I am in awe. Once again, I paced anxiously through the house becoming wrapped up within the story. Reading the events of the story and how they all connected, how Ben and Fallon were connected, I questioned myself if I were in Fallon's position, love the person who caused so much hurt physically and emotionally, even if it were not intended?

I thought it was crazy how Ben and Fallon held onto their promise of meeting in the same place, on the same day once a year, at the same time to be a bit unrealistic. Maybe because I have never had to make or deal with this scenario? As I read the book, I was able to see true emotions, internal chaos in loving someone you could not have. Ben and Fallon learn to fight for themselves and one another in their awkward relationship.




This Girl: Slammed Trilogy #3

 Hoover, C. (2013). This girl: A novel. New York: Atria Paperback.
They have made it through the tough times, but find that more are to come. Told through Will's point of view, the audience is able to see why he acted certain ways, hear his regrets, and his story of why he was in the situation he was in when he first met Lake. Although it may be painful for him to bring those memories back to reality, Will knows that it will help Lake understand why he did what he did, as well as a few confessions. Now married, Will and Lake begin their journey in learning to deal with the past situations and move forward to a new future.

This final novel of the trilogy wraps up the storyline of Will's history and the marriage between Will and Lake. It brings closure to the story and the reader who I am sure questioned many things along the way. Although they went through trial after trial after trial, Will and Lake proved that their love for one another, although young, stood the tests that came in their way. Ultimately, their love for one another got them through the most difficult of times and brought them closer together, building a stronger relationship as husband and wife.


Point of Retreat: Slammed Trilogy #2


Hoover, C. (2012). Point of retreat: A novel. New York: Atria Paperback.  

Will and Lake's story of emotional turmoil continues as they struggle to keep their relationship in tacked. Will's past comes to light and puts a toll on their connection. They both go through a point that they separate to figure themselves out and what would be best for them. Should they retreat from one another and focus on themselves and their families or should they fight for the love they have for one another? 

After reading finishing Slammed and reading this within a day, I once again was pacing the house anxious as I needed to get to the next book. The loves story between the two is so captivating and intense that you cannot help but get emotionally involved. You cannot help but become angry at Will for his actions or talk to Lake for her thinking or actions as well. Yes, I talk to my books and the characters within them. I just want to crawl through the pages and talk (or scream) to them for their decisions at times. 

This book is the middle ground or midpoint in the relationship with Will and Lake. Although they want be together, retreating is always there for when things become to heated between the two; personally and emotionally.


Slammed Trilogy #1

 Hoover, C. (2012). Slammed: A novel. New York: Atria Paperback.

This is book one of three. Eighteen year old Lake and her family relocate after her father dies unexpectedly, from Texas to Michigan. It is there that she meets her neighbor, twenty one year old Will, across the street. While out on their first date, they attend a poetry slam. They both have younger brothers who like to play with one another and soon become best friends. They are around each other, you would think they were connected at the hip.  It is not until when Lake enrolls in school that her and Will's world comes to a halt. When it seems that Will is Lakes poetry teacher, turmoil begins. Both has to learn how to balance school and intense feelings before someone finds out. If someone did, Will could lose everything; his little brother, his home, his career, and have to drop out of college.  It is through the poetry that Will creates and assigns his students that he and Lake are able to communicate their true feelings for one another.

The moment I realized that Will was Lake's poetry teacher was a moment that I about lost it. I didn't have anyone to turn to to talk about it (typically the case) and I was about to go crazy! My husband could tell something was going on as I could not sit still while reading, had my eyes glued to the book while in the car, and saw the glow of the flashlight as I read in the middle of the night to early hours in the morning. He has gotten used to it. I became instantly hooked with this love story and was anxious throughout the events of all three books.

I have become such a HUGE fan of Colleen Hoover and every chance I get, I make sure to find a book. Typically, I get one at a time, but not in this case. I got all three. Knowing it was a series, I had to. It would have bothered me to much to wait and have to go back. This is not the first of Colleen Hoover that I have read. I cannot wait til more material is published to continue reading.


I didn't realize that The Advett Brothers was a real band. I got on YouTube and searched for them and instantly fell in love with their music. Listening to them, I became excited hearing the quotes from each chapter in their songs. So thank you Colleen Hoover for introducing me to a new band that I find I can connect to at times and feel not overwhelmed or edgy when listening to them. I am definitely keeping an eye out for tour dates. 



Wednesday, August 3, 2016

Final Reflection

Wow this semester has been very intense. Part of me feels like I took to big of a bite trying to finish up my last 9 hours of course work for my graduate degree, prepping for my Practicum, Cub Scouts, family activities, and remodeling our home.  That being said, it has been a very interesting summer that has flown by. Although I have felt overwhelmed at time (like right now), I am glad I pushed myself this summer.
From creating classroom social media pages, writing grants, reading materials about and within the other cultures, and creating digital projects to utilize in the classroom, I have learned quite a bit.

With so many options available, it seems that it can be overwhelming in finding what would fit best for your classroom, library, and the study body. This course helped weed through some of the options. Some of my favorite activities this summer were the YouTube, Animoto, QR Codes, Snapchat, Screencast, comics and cartoons, and Goodreads online book community. My students already have access to this blog to follow for reading recommendations, but I think Goodreads will be beneficial to them as well.

I like that I can utilize many of the items we discussed and created in this class with my students. I want to have my students create QR Codes for their favorite books each six weeks, use either Snapchat or Instagram to take pictures of current readings and snap pictures or videos of things they come in contact with that relates to things we have discussed in class or something they learned outside of the classroom and to share their accomplishments or anything special to them. I want to use Instagram or Snapchat to capture and to share so the students can follow what I am currently reading, but refer to the blog and Goodreads for recommendations.

The podcast and screencast are great ideas for me to utilize this fall semester as I will be missing days completing my Practicum or any other reason, such as my children or my self being sick. I will be able to leave verbal instructions for my students and supply them with videos for navigating our learning management system, Schoology, or any other digital or social media activities. I can only leave so much of the limited space of a chalkboard.

I cannot wait to try the online cartoons and comics for our Edgar Allan Poe unit. Each fall, around Halloween, we look at the 5 most popular death theories and the students practice reading articles, choosing a theory, supporting their theory with evidence, and presenting to the class their theory. Honestly, I am becoming bored with power points. This will provide them an opportunity to be creative using digital tools and practice for future projects.

I only really worry about using social media in the classroom and the students using it inappropriately. With our daily schedule changing from 6 to 7 classes and every core teacher receiving an intervention class, I think I will utilize the social media with my intervention class and facilitate the small group testing it out. Having the software to monitor their activity will help keep the students on tasks and eliminate any activities that are not appropriate and off task.

Some assignments I did have some issues with, but with time, research, trials and error, I was able to work through them. I have come into issues with some software for Windows only when having a Mac. As an Apple house, we come into this a lot. Luckily, my husband has a Windows laptop for me to use. It was just an inconvenience to bounce between the two formats. It was time consuming going back and forth, saving to the USB or making sure his laptop was available to use when he was not on it for work (he monitors a major oil company’s security system world wide).

I struggled with a few things. At times I had a hard time focusing, I felt I was always running out of time and worried I would not keep up, miss an assignment, or not complete something accordingly. I struggled with the scavenger hunt and trying to get it done, responding to classmate’s blog posts, as well as the 150 pages of article readings. I was so busy with my regular assignments and managing the family, it kept getting pushed aside. It really bothered me. Many, many times I was up all night, I mean like 3-5 in the morning, trying to get things done.


Although this was the most stressful semester, I am glad I did it and was able to complete it. I have really enjoyed my time with SHSU and the LSSL program. I knew if I had not applied and began grad school when I did, I knew I never would. I am so glad I did this. I cannot wait to graduation and meeting my professors and classmate’s.

Teens, Technology and Friendships

Lenhart, A., Smith, A., Anderson, M., Duggan, M., & Perrin, A. (2015, August 6). Teens, Technology and Friendships. 1-68. Retrieved July 18, 2016, from http://www.pewinternet.org/2015/08/06/teens-technology-and-friendships/

Technology has changed how we view and interact with our friends. Not only are we making phone calls, but we are not posting to social media, video chatting and playing online games. Friends are being made easily and sometimes connections are made.

Surveys have shown how social media impacts friendships and how teenagers interact with the technology interfering in relationships.

Meeting, Hanging Out and Staying in Touch: The Role of Digital Technology in Teen Relationships


Inch by inch, teenagers are making friends more and more online. 57% of the teens surveyed said that they made new friends online, while 22% made two to five friends, with only 20% meeting their new online friends in person.

Boys were more likely than girls to make friends online. 61% compared to the 52% made at least one friend online. The survey showed that older teens were more likely to make new friends online than younger teenagers. 67% of older teens had new online friends.

Teenagers who played video games were to make online friends. Ages 13-17 teens, 72% made friends online through video games. 83% of teens played with others, while 75% played the video games online. 89% of the teens who played video games knew the other person, while 54% were friends only online and 52% were not friends at all.

Those teens who played video games with others were more likely to make a lot of friends online. 74% of teens surveyed stated they made friends online, while 37% made more than five friends online.

Social media brings about another way of making friends. Teenagers are twice as likely to make friends online through social media. 31% of teens surveyed made five friends or more online compared to those teens who did not use social media.

Those teenagers how had access to smartphones were likely to make more friends online. 60% of teens made new online friends using a smartphone, compared to the 48% of teens who did not use a smartphone.

Social media and gaming are the top venues for making new friends.
So many options are available for students to communicate and make new friends online and in social media. Students can make new friends through discussion boards, blogs, network and online video games, as well as many others formats. 

Where they made their friends was the question. 36% of the teens surveyed made friends on social media site like Facebook and Twitter, 21% made friends on online video games, 6% on video sharing sites like YouTube and Vine, and 4% made friends using blogging sites like Blogger and Tumblr.

Girls were more likely to make new online friends through social media, as boys were with video games. 41% of teenage girls had made friends online through Facebook , Twitter and other social media sites., compared to the 31% of teenage boys. 34% of boys met friends online through video games compared to the 7% of girls.  Of the group of boys surveyed, 31% made friends online through social media.

The steady flow of teenagers making friends online stem from the friends they already have and networking through friend’s friends.

When meeting their online friends, older teens were likely to meet their online friends in person. The meetings happened though mutual friends after video chatting. The teenagers surveyed found that new online friends were willing to drive long distance to meet one another and hang out. They also stated that when meeting, phone numbers are exchanged to help keep in contact. 80% of teens expect their new online friend to text. 62% of the teens surveyed exchanged social media usernames, while 39% shared their email addresses.

Teenagers with smartphone (89%) are more likely to share their phone number, social media usernames, while those without smartphone (54%) are likely to share their email address.

When sharing the contact information, the survey found it depended on the age and gender. Boys ages 13-14 were less likely to share information, 70% share phone numbers, while more than 80% of girls ages 13-14, as well as the older teenagers of both genders.

Sharing social media usernames was more popular amongst girls and older teens (65% and 58%).  While girls are more likely to share social media usernames, boys are more likely to share gaming usernames42% of younger teenage boys and 36% of older teenage boys shared their gaming usernames.

Although the data given through the survey showed how teens exchanged contact information, many gave all forms of contact, while some are cautious about it.

Once friendships are established, teenagers have many ways to interact with one another. They have social media, face to face chats, email, video games, and all kinds of messaging formats.

Of the teenagers surveyed, 95% of them spent time with their friends outside of school in person.  One quarter of them spend time with their friends on a daily basis, 39% every few days, and about one third did so less often.

Although teenagers spend time with their friends outside of school, text messages was a phone based activity that was preferred, is more frequently, is the most popular in using when communicating.

Other ways for teens to communicate with their friends are instant messaging (79%), social media (71%), email (64%), video chat (59%), video games (52%), and message applications (42).

After finding out the avenues in which the teenagers communicated, the survey then asked what the conversations were about. Questions about how things were going, sports, and gossip were the most popular in responses.

It was found that household income had an impact on how teenagers spent time with their friends. Those teens surveyed in higher earning income households ($75,000 or more) spent time with their friends outside of school, as to the lower income households ($30,000 or less) did not spend as much time with friends outside of school.

When texting, girls were more likely to text friends daily with 62% compared to the 48% of boys. 15% of boys do not use text messages to communicate with friends as all.

As another important port for communications, 72% of teens use social media to post on sites. 23% do this daily as to the 28% do it every few days. Lower income teenagers were more likely to interact daily as compared to those teens who household were financially stable. Apps such as WhatsApp and Kik are sites that the teenagers used to communicate with one another.

Sending messages is popular amongst older teens and girls to hang out with friends. Those who met friends online are likely to use messaging formats as well (87%).

With girls using social media, text messages, and messages to communicate, boys are more likely to do so through video games (74%).

Email is not as popular to communicate with friends. 64% off teens use email to stay connected with friends. Higher household incomes (71%) were more likely to email than lower income households (56%). 

As social media accounts increase for teenagers, so do the number of passwords. 19% of the teenagers surveyed shared their password with others. The survey stated that 23% of teens who had two or more accounts, shared their passwords, as the 11% who had two or less accounts. Those teenagers who had five or more accounts (34%) have shared passwords. When sharing their passwords, teenagers see it as a sign of trust amongst their peers and partners. Some teens stated that with sharing their passwords, they felt that their intimacy of friendships and relationships were put in jeopardy.



How Teens Hang Out and stay in Touch with Their Close Friends


School is the top location that teenagers spend time with their friends. 83% of surveyed teens said this, while 58% spend time at a friend’s home, 55% spend time with friends online on social media and messaging, and 45% doing extra activities outside of school.

55% of teens surveyed spent time with their friends online on a regular basis. 65% said they met a new friend online while 41% did not.

Frequent contact with closest friend is facilitated by mobile devices and social media
Staying in touch with each other has become easier due to the technology of smartphones, social media, gaming, and the internet.

Those teenagers who had access to devices were more likely to stay in contact with friends. 60% of these teens stayed in contact with their friends, compared to the 47% of those without internet device access. 62% of teens who had smartphones were in touch daily with their friends daily and 45% did so several times a day.

Social media has become a favorite for interacting with friends. 63% of teens make daily contact on social media, while 44% make multiple contacts with their friends. Those without social media, 47% communicated with friends, as 30%  did so many times a day.  78% of the teens surveyed who had five or more social media accounts stayed in touch daily with friends.

Half of teens say texting is the most common way they communicate with close friends
Text messages ranked highest in the survey in how teenagers communicated amongst their friends. 49% of the teens said they texted friends. Girls are more likely to text than boys (55% to 43%). 54% of teenagers ages 15-17 used text messages compared younger teenagers of 41%.

The survey found that household incomes that were above $75,000 depended on text messages to communicate compared to the lower income households who depend on social media when communicating.

Teenagers who had access to smartphone or other digital devices were more likely to texts to communicate with friends. 58% of teens with smartphones text, compared to the 30% of teens who used a basic phone, and 19% of teens who did not have cellphone access.

Teens without access to smartphones more likely depended on social media to communicate with friends. They are also more likely to make phone calls to stay in contact with friends.

Phone-based methods are overall the most popular ways that teens communicate with closest friends
Again, texting (80%) was the most popular way to communicate amongst the teenagers in the survey, with phone calls (69%) as a second way to communicate. Social media was third with 66% and 21% using gaming as ways to communicate with friends.

The survey found that the teenagers wrote in an answer for another way to communicate with their friends.  21% of teens responded that they used video chatting or FaceTimed on their phones, as well as email.

Girls were more likely to use texting (84%), phone calls (75%), and social media (72%) as means of communication with friends.

75% of boys used texts, 62% used phone calls, and 60% used social media to keep in touch. That being said, boys are ore likely to use gaming to communicate with friends.

Teenagers with smart phones are likely to say texting is the way to communicate (86%), compared to those who do not have a smartphone (62%).  Teens (71%) with smartphones make phone calls compared to those who do not have smartphone access (62%). Teenagers (68%) with smartphone access use social media to communicate, as those who do not have a smartphone (60%).

The reasoning for selecting the ways to communicate depended on how the teenager felt about the person they wanted to hang out or talk to. The survey said if the teen wanted to talk to a close friend, they would make a phone call, as a an acquaintances would receive text messages. 


Video Games are Key Elements in Friendship for Many Boys


72% of teens who play games do so on the computer and majority of them are teenage boys. Because of changes in technology, gamers can play with others in person (83%) as well as online (75%).

Teenage boys game against friends they know (89%), online friends only (54%),  and those they do not know (52%).

36% of teen boys stated they met new friends while playing games online. 23% said they gave their gaming handle to new friends to stay in contact. When gaming, 83% of teen play in the same room and 33% play on a network on a weekly basis. When gaming on a network, the teens may not always know who they are playing with or against. 57% of teenage boys who play online games considers the other online gamers not friends.

When gaming, 71% of teen boys use voice connection to speak to other players who are also on the network. This allows for communication while playing the game with partners, as well as things that are happening around them and in their lives. Some teenagers even use Skype to communicate when gaming. This is a major way for teenage boys to make friends. Three quarters of teens who game said they talk while playing. Talking while gaming ranks high for teen boys to communicate with others.

When playing, 78% of teens say they feel connected to their friends, 84% being teenage boys. 52% of teens who play network games feel connected. But it also had an impact on the teenagers. Anger, frustration, and happiness were common amongst the emotions experienced when playing online games. 82% said they felt relaxed, while 30% said they felt angered or frustrated. These emotions come from poor playing on behalf of the teen or online player.

Teens, video games and friends: Other Demographic Differences
Teens who come from higher income household were likely to play online games with someone they knew in person (94%).  Lower income household teens felt they were more connected to people that were not friends.  Some said they felt relaxed  and happy when playing.

Rural teenagers were less likely to play online games than those who lived in urban areas. 78% of urban teens play online games, as do 77% suburban teens and 59% rural teens do. Suburban teens were more likely to play online games with friends they knew in person (92% suburban vs 77% rural). Rural teens are more likely to play with friends they know online.


Social Media and Friendship


Social media is important to teenagers today. 76% of teenagers surveyed used social media. Facebook dominates with Instagram (52%) and Snapchat (41%) gaining popularity. One third of the teens surveyed used Twitter.

64% of teens have made a new friend on social media. It also provides a way for existing friends to stay in touch. 94% spend time with friends on social media, 30% is everyday and 37% is every few days.

 Those teens who use social media claimed that if allows them to feel more emotionally connected. 40% of girls said they felt connected compared to 26% of boys.

Smartphones provide constant access to social media for teenagers. With such ease of connecting, teenagers can connect and interact anywhere.

Because of such access so easily to gain, many of the teens surveyed felt that too much information is out there and it is not as private.

Nearly 7:10 teens receive support from friends through social media during tough times
Just like making connections easier amongst online and personal friends, it also helps with receiving support though up’s and down’s.

Teens with smartphone (71%) are more likely to receive support than those who do not have such access (58%) to the device.

Self presentation and curation of social media presence
Presentation is something that all social media user things about, not just teenagers.

Teenagers are constantly being told to be cautious of what information and images they post. Post could be misinterpreted, misread, or set the use up future issues.

Parents are always informing teenagers that their social media accounts could present themselves to a wide range of audiences when it comes to future employment and academics.

85% of the teenagers surveyed stated that others are able to create different personalities online than they can off line. Teens with smartphone were more likely and able to participate since they had an easier access to such devices. More opportunities were available to posts such comments or images. This brings many teens to agree with that others are not as authentic in their posts and profile.

With authenticity and attention teenagers seek, 40% of teens surveyed felt pressured to have a positive and attractive profile and posts. 42% of teenagers whose parent have a college degree felt pressured to have positive content on their social media accounts, while 36% of teens whose parents have some college and 35% of teens whose parents have a high school diploma feel like they have to report on social media. Not only do teens feel pressure to post about themselves, they feel pressured to post on friends pages if not likes (39%).

42% of the teens surveyed stated that others posted things about them that they were not able to control; 46% of older teens have deal with this, 35% of younger teens have dealt with it.


Conflict, Friendships and Technology


Unfortunately, as much as social media helps teenagers feel connected and form friendships, it can also hurt and break it apart. Conflict between teenagers causes drama online that can in turn cause issues for both sides. 68% of teenagers have witnessed this.

Girls reported seeing the drama begin online, with 72% of girls and 64% of boys encountered such drama. 72% of teenagers of ages 15-17 and 62% of teenagers of ages 13-14 experienced seeing conflicts arise on social media. Girls are more likely to experience or witness such drama. Teenagers who used Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat were more likely to see these conflicts on social media compared to those teenagers who did not have those accounts. 79% of Snapchat users, 75% of Twitter users, and 73% of Instagram users experience such conflict. These conflicts often go back and forth between parties. Conflicts can arise by exploring other peoples profiles, pictures, or posts.

About 26% of the teens surveyed stated that friends will fight off line about something that happened online or was from a text message, while 73% had not been involved in such turmoil. Girls are more likely to report such situations. 32% of girls and 20% of boys were involve in such conflicts that began online.

31% of teens surveyed said they had conflict with friends over social media or a text. For those teenagers who did not have social media, the percentage dropped to 11%.  Smartphones influence online conflicts since access is so easily to come by.

Teenagers were surveyed about what happened to when a friendship ended. 60% stated that users unfriended each other, blocked them or deleted any images of them. 61% of older teenagers have done this as had 52% of younger teenagers.  Teenagers even block others from their social media sites and phone (53% of girls vs 37% of boys).

Regardless of what actions are taken to stop any further posts about someone, girls are more likely to unfriend, block, and delete memories of a previous friendship.



Teens, Technology and Romantic Relationships

From Flirting to breaking up, social media and mobile phones are woven into teens' romantic lives.

Pew Research Center
Lenhart, A., Smith, A., & Anderson, M. (2015, October 1). Teens, Technology and Romantic Relationships. 1-69. Retrieved July 18, 2016, from http://www.pewinternet.org/2015/10/01/teens-technology-and-romantic-relationships/


We are no longer in a time where we speak to someone on the phone or in person when communicating with one another as our only way of communication. Technology has advanced so much in the last several years in how we communicate with each other, our professional life, and personal life. The formats of communication through technology have dramatically changed how we interact with one another, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. More and more teenagers are able to access such formats and participate in their relationships through the various social medias.

Research has shown that teenagers are using social media to pursue, flirt, interact, break-up, or harass current or former partners. Both positive and negative results surfaced during the research and the impact was noted. With the many different formats, teens are able to manage connections and communications with multiple people.

Basics on Teen Romantic Relationships


Of the teenagers who participated in the survey, 35% were in a relationship or dating, while 64% had not been in a relationship of any kind at all.  Of the 35% of teens who had been in a relationship or who were dating, 14% of them were currently in a relationship that was believed to be serious, 5% were in a relationship that was not seen as serious, while 16% of teens were not currently dating.


How Teens Meet, Flirt With and Ask Out Potential Romantic Partners


One-quarter of teenagers in the survey had dated an individual they had met online. Of the resources of meeting potential partners, Facebook was names the most often with Instagram coming in second. Twitter and other resources were other sites mentioned.

31% of teens who had met a partner online, stated they were romantically involved with, that they had not yet met in person, while 69% of teens who met their partner online had actually met them in person.


Teens use social media and search to connect with and research potential romantic partners.
20% of teenagers had turned to social media in search of a romantic partner. They did this by following that individual or friending them because a friend suggested so they would be a good match for dating.

Of that 20%, 23% of 15-17 year olds had followed someone at a friends requests hoping for a relationship, while 15% of 13-14 year olds had done the same thing for the same purposes.

With the digitals available at their fingertips, teenagers are able to research potential partners and find all kinds of information online.  Older teens were more likely to do this than younger teenagers. It was noted that if teenagers was not ready to reveal themselves and their feelings to the public, the trick was to hide their identity while they researched their potential partner.

Teens take a range of approaches to let someone know they are interested in them romantically
Of the teenagers surveyed, 50% of teens have let someone know that they were interested in them. They did this through friending on Facebook or other social medial resources.

55% of the teens flirted with the person they were interested in while 47% expressed their interest by liking or commenting on posts.

63% have used messaging to flirt with those they were interested while 23% of teens have sent mature images or videos to that person of interest. There are various ways that teens flirt with the person of interest. They do so through sending emojis, liking several pictures in a row, or began texting that eventually moved into talking.  This type of flirting is not for everyone though. Some teenagers still preferred the  “old fashion” way of flirting, through conversations and talking to the person of interest.

Girls are especially likely to experience unwanted flirting on Social Media
One quarter of teenagers have blocked or unfriended someone that made them uncomfortable when flirting online. Female teenagers are more likely to deal with this.

31% of female teenagers, ages, 13-14 years old had either blocked or unfriended someone on social media because they became uncomfortable with the flirting.

For teens, asking someone out in person is the most common approach, although digital tools also play a role.
Female teenagers were more likely to wait for their person of interest to approach them, but as they get older they tend to reach out more.

How Teens Incorporate Digital Platforms and Devices Into Their Romantic Relationships


The survey showed that teenagers spent time with the partners both online and offline.

92% of teens who are in a relationship, spend time texting to one another as a form of communication, 87% spend time talking on the phone, 86% spend time communicating in person, 70% use social media to communicate with their partner, and 69% use instant or online messages to communicate.

Other forms of communication include video chatting (55%), email (37%), and talking while playing video games (31%).

Texting partners tops how teenagers communicate with their partners, with talking on the phone is second when communicating. 39% of teens talk on the phone every day to their partner, 29% use instant messages, 21% use social media, 21% spend time together in each others presence, and 20% use messaging app for communication with their partner. Older teenagers are more likely to communicate in person. Female teenagers were more likely to text their partner.

When it came to what to send materials, teenagers found that humor was the most shared online information used, 85%. Other materials shared included 78% of teens sharing personal thoughts online, 78% of teens have shared what they were doing, 74% updated based on what was happening with their friends, and 73% have shared the location and time of their outings. On top of that is mentioned online is family issues. Nearly half of the teens discuss family problems while 31% for personal health issues announcements or follow ups. 22% of teens share their religious background while only 10% shared political information.

Teenagers find that they had to have some kind of social interaction with a partner. 85% of teens expect to hear from their partner once a day while 11% of teens expected hourly while 35% hope to communicate with them in a few hours.  While using the technology to interact and connect with partners, it also brings friction between partners.

With so many teens using social media to communicate with each other, there are consequences. When not responding immediately, teenagers become upset that they were not able to communicate with their partner. 21% of teens claimed that their partner pressured them into responding using either texts, phone calls, emails or IMs, while 18% of teens feel this way sometimes and 3% of teens feel they always have to respond.

Although social media has helped in keeping partners connected, the research showed that it also disrupted the relationships. 43% of teens reported that social media interfered and distracted the partner, while 33% of teens reported they felt their partner was doing something online that upset them.


Social Media and Romantic Relationships


Viewed as a place to connect, teens find that by using social media to communicate daily, they can share their emotions, letting others know that they care, even if they may find they feel jealous or uncertain about their relationship.

Boys were more likely to view social media sites as a place for emotional connections with a partner. That being said, 65% of boys felt that they are more connected using social media, while 50% of boys felt emotionally connected compared to the 37% of girls.

A substantial minority of teen daters feel their significant other shows a different side of themselves – or is less authentic – on social media
Being online provides users an opportunity to create alter personalities online than what they would show off line in person. 85% of teens said that social media allowed users to create different profiles, while 77% agreed that users are less authentic online.

When asked if their partner showed a different side of themselves online, 42% agreed they partner did so, while 9% strongly agreed. 36% of teens said their partner were less authentic, while 7% agree strongly and 64% disagree. Girls were likely to strongly disagree with their partner showing a different side of themselves online.

With personalities altering online, friendships were  supported. 71% of girls were more likely to support their friends relationships online, compared to the 57% boys.

Because so many users were able to see what was happening online with friendships and relationships, many felt that too much information is offered for public viewing. 69% of teens stated that too many people see what is happening in their relationships. This has led to many keeping their relationships offline to avoid interference and drama. Some even do not post because they are not sure of their relationship status or do not want to brag.


After the Relationship: Technology and Breakups


When breaking up a relationship, the research showed that teens preferred to be told in person, while by phone came in second. Using social media or text messaging was seen as unacceptable.

62% of teens had broken up with their partner in person, while 42% had ben broken up with their partner in person. 29% of teens broke up with a partner over the phone, while 27% of teens were broken up with by a partner over the phone. When breaking up with someone through social media, girls were more likely to send private messages.

When asked how they felt about breaking up through other forms than in person, they stated that it was juvenile to break up through text messages. Younger teens stated that breaking up with social media made it easier because the physical discussion was not emotional, making it harder to do so.

After breaking up with a partner, many find that they had a lot of memories through pictures, videos, and messages that can initially cause heartache and unwanted contact.

Girls were more likely to remove ex-partners from contacts, by blocking or unfriending them on social media. 44% of girls had untagged or deleted photos of ex-partners from online.  It was found to be an act of respect for the ex-partner, while some find it harder to recover and move on from the previous relationship.


Teen Relationships Struggles: From Potentially Innocuous to Annoying to Abusive Digital Behaviors


Because so many tools and resources are online, it has became easy for teens to retaliate against previous partners, which could lead to abusive or harmful actions. This can be done through impersonating someone else, deleting or altering profiles, posting embarrassing pictures, and tracking previous partners without permission.

Teens are able to pursue these actions by accessing other peoples phone number or account they were dating or had dated.

10% of teens had impersonated their ex-partner in a message or by accessing, modifying or deleting a profile, while 10% pretend to be the actual partner.

While some teens impersonate, others stated that they had sent embarrassing pictures of their partner or ex-partner to others, while 4% downloaded a GPS on a partners or ex-partners phone without them knowing.

31% of teens stated that current or ex-partners had tracked and checked up on them through the internet, cell phone asking questions about their location, who they were with, and what they were doing.  21% of teens stated that that current or ex-partners had read through their text and online messages without their permission.

Along with questioning and following current or ex-partners, 15% of teens were pressured through online messages to engage in unwanted sexual activity. 14-15 year olds were more likely to report this than younger or older teens.

Others  (16%) stated that they were forced by partners to remove former partners or friends from their social media accounts. 13% demanded that passwords to emails and online accounts be shared with their partners. 11% of teens stated that they were threatened through either online or phone messages by their partner. 8% of teens were threatened through digital formats by an ex-partner, while 4% experiences either online or phone threats from their partner.

Few teens (8%) reported that current or ex-partners provided unwanted information online that was embarrassing or against them in any manner. 4% of teens reported this happening during a relationship, while 4% experienced after a relationship was broken up.

About a quarter of teens that participated in the research stated that they experienced name calling through the internet and their phones, as well as, stating mean things or providing put downs about them. 14% of teens reported this happened after the relationship was terminated, while 8% claimed it happened during the relationship. It was also noted that 15% of teens reported they had rumor spread about them from a current or former partner over the phone or internet.

Appendix A

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Teens

Sexual orientation was asked when the teens participated in the research. 93% of the teens claimed to be straight, while 3% were unsure, 2% identified as bisexual, and less than 1% identified as gay or lesbian.

Conclusion


While social media can bring together people from all over creating friendships and possible romantic relationships, it can also bring to the table emotions and actions that are not appropriate for a relationship. The numbers presented in the research were as I expected as I work with 13-15 year olds on a daily basis. This might be a good idea to address with my classes as we discuss online etiquette each year. By doing so with a class, showing them the numbers by how many seats are filled, they tend to grasp it better and become more aware of the negative behavior. I think online etiquette needs to be something that each student be required to go through as a course or part of a course to show them the responsibilities they have and what their actions can do to others and what consequences come with inappropriate online behavior.

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